Parents who regret having children, why do you regret it and how do you handle it?

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It’s not that I don’t love my kids, but I am a terrible parent. I was diagnosed bipolar 7 or 8 years ago and the illness has gotten worse over time. I told my wife that if I knew then what I know now, I would have never had children. Because its not fair to them. Thank You to all who responded. Your comments, especially those with bipolar parents, makes me feel a little better. And thanks for.the gold.


I had a child very young. I got married at 17, pregnant at 18, gave birth at 19. He’ll be 32 this year. I wanted him for all the wrong reasons. I had a horrible family and I wanted someone to love me. Someone of my own. As soon as I had him, I sat in a rocking chair for two weeks and cried. Because, what had I done? What had I been thinking? The weight of responsibility fell heavily on my shoulders. I couldn’t take care of a baby. I couldn’t even take care of myself. And I had picked a horrible partner to have him with. Despite all this, I loved my son very much. I used to say that if they could guarantee me that I’d get the same kid, and that I wouldn’t miss him, I’d have waited a few years longer before having him. My relationship with my son to this day isn’t what I want it to be. I wish we were closer. I wish I’d been a better mom. I wish I hadn’t dragged him through all my drama with men during his developmental years. He deserved much better than what he got. My decisions hurt him. Now that I’m older and somewhat have my shit together, I wish I’d had more kids. I’d be a much better mother now that I have done things figured out. Of course that’s not possible. We only get one shot at life, there are no do overs.


I try to throw myself into other things as much as possible. I want to give her a good life, it’s not her fault that I chose to have a kid when I wasn’t ready for one.


Hold on, let me ask my parents real quick


I regret my kids because they suck the life out of me. There is no more me. I am a mom. Handling it: acceptance. But I do love my kids Hey guys, and ladies. I love my kids. It’s not that bad. I’m just being dramatic. But hey, rn there asleep so I’m redditing. It’s not all that bad. #itthelittlethings I can’t believe so many of u don’t get what I’m saying. Again, I love my kids but there just exzausting at times.