A study exploring women’s responses to compliments in the context of online dating has found that women are rated less favorably when they agree with compliments than when they dismiss praise or respond with, “Thank you.”

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I don’t know who needs to hear this, but there is literally only one response to ever give EVER for any compliment given to you ever at any point: “Thank you.” Everything else is either inappropriate or rude. Just say thanks and let your internal organs and self-loathing/pride deal with their own problems alone. Literally, just say “thank you” and you’ll be a much better person for it. Make it a habit and stop deflecting or expecting praise. It’s gross and unattractive. The kindest and most confident thing you can do is simply say, “Thank you!”

Chatechized

Isn’t this because men expect to be rejected so when they are not they feel suspicious?

detteros

Just looking at the abstract: >Dating initiation is a challenging phase of heterosexual romantic relationship development, with men and women often having different expectations and interpretations of communicative cues. That’s a stretch. On the whole, we have majority rates of pair-bonding, even in polygamous cultures. Even still, a majority of pair-bonds will include a facet of infidelity. We do *not* find connection a challenge, overall. >With online dating becoming increasingly popular, the challenges of relationship initiation are more apparent and may even lead to negative interpersonal interactions, such as online harassment. Sorry, what? Online dating widens the scope of selection and enforces a degree of privacy. If you’re making the interaction more challenging for rapists, then the predictable resulting conversion to online harassment isn’t a failure of ‘relationship initiation’. >The present investigation employed expectancy violations theory to understand and explain perceptions of women’s responses to compliments in an online dating context. We predicted that due to general as well as gender-specific expectations for compliments and responses, when such expectations are violated, conflict and emotional reactions would arise. I would have assumed that using the framework of EVT, you’d be able to make a slightly more defined prediction than ’emotional reactions would arise’. >Using a sample of 413 U.S. undergraduate students If there’s one thing that the Social Sciences have learned about women, it’s that they all go to American Colleges.

ManWithDominantClaw

there’s a reason why one direction’s song ‘ you don’t know you’re beautiful’ is awesome

jawnyt

There are always men who don’t want women to have self worth because it’s an effective avenue of control. That doesn’t only apply to conscious efforts at control, either.

Ethel_the_Toad