[Serious] Doctors, how are you able to perceive a person in a sexual way if you’ve been trained to see the human body objectively?

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I’m a nurse. Sometimes you…..don’t. As in, you come home from work after taking care of geriatric body parts and you do not feel like sexytime. Your partners body parts are just fleshy anatomy all of a sudden and its impossible to suddenly switch your brain into gear. But memory is a funny thing, that passes pretty quickly. 24 hours after that, you’ve completely forgotten about work and now your brain is looking at your partner through a very different lens.


It’s like a switch, you might be looking at genitals but there’s nothing sexual about it. I guess it’s a combination of the amount of genitals and what people need belp with. (Usually something got stuck, more than often STD’s and oozing. There really isn’t anything sexual about that, but it still doesn’t affect my personal relationships) I could be staring at my boyfriends penis and it still wouldn’t be sexual until we’re about to smoosh booties.


I look at my patients very differently from how I look at a partner. When I look at my patients I see a bunch of body parts that need mending- broken bones, gunshot wounds, butts that need wiping…whatever. Not to say that I don’t look at them as a human being, I do, but they have immediate physical needs that are usually kind of gross and I separating myself kind of gives them some dignity and me some room to like, distance myself from the reality of someone’s foot falling off or whatever. When I see my boyfriend after a long shift, I see a whole-ass person with a dick I could fall face-first onto and a cute face that could return the favor, and it’s a whole different way of looking at a person.


This reminds me of a time when I was at the doctor’s office and my NP (a pretty woman around my age) was with her (even prettier) nursing student and they had to examine my balls with me standing in front of them as they knelt in the examination room. I don’t think I’ll ever forget the awkwardness of that moment.


Former EMT. It’s work. I am not ‘outside me’ I am ‘work me’ and focusing on the problem.