The Secret is Patience

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This was a very reassuring read for a 37 year old that started lifting 2 years ago… Now if it wasn’t for those 18 years olds in the gym who are already jacked…


Mythical is 100% right – it takes a long time to get proper jacked and strong. And I think this fact should lead to a change in how people talk about ‘optimal programming’. Because the ‘optimal program’ for most people isn’t the one that gives them the best results in the shortest time but is rather the program that they enjoy and can stick to long term. I made this change in my programming – I got great results from the SBS programs, but I didn’t enjoy having the rigidly proscribed workouts and all the AMRAPs. So I switched to a much looser structure where I know what exercises I want to do, but play around with weight, reps, variations based on how I’m feeling. Am I as strong as I would be if I had stuck with SBS? Probably not. But I’m having fun and actually going to the gym instead of quitting because I hate it.


To add something of my own to something of your own: > To add something of my own to the conversation, this lack of patience also seems to rob people of the satisfaction of the short term results they have achieved I think this pairs well with /u/thefatalist post about different ways to measure progress and PRs. And I’m certain MS has written about it as well. If all I paid attention to was literally the weight in the bar as a measure of my progress I would be miserable. I’ve been running 5/3/1 for 5 cycles now and haven’t tested at all. That would mean I haven’t put up weight even close to my 1rm in a while. However I hit a rep PR almost every week. My e1rm has gone up significantly. My training max for some lifts are almost the same as the 1rm I based them off of initially. That’s exciting. That is what feels good. Shit, I’ll consider it a PR if I hit the same reps x weight but do it after conditioning or doing it despite a bad unrack or misgroove.


Man I don’t know if anyone else is like this but I used to barely accept my body. I’m not fat, I’m not jacked. I’m somewhere in between. Thicc but have some decent muscles underneath that. I have some immense stretch marks on my arm and hip area from rapid weight gain. I didn’t like taking off my shirt but still did it. I started working out again but this time on my own time (not some class). I feel better and more confident in my body. I flex my 20% bf body and see a jacked bro from the muscles underneath my fat. Inspires me to see what I look like when actually lean and muscular. I’ve been slowly getting acclimated to making some changes to my eating and making consistent effort to lift weights *with good form*. I walk with my chest out a little more (even though it likely looks pretty awful because I still have a lot of fat to go) because I’m beginning to like my body. THAT is body positivity in my opinion. Loving your body while making active effort to better it. Also I feel high immediately after hitting the gym. I literally look like I am BUILT in the mirror but only while I have that after gym high. Confidence busts through the roof and it’s a pretty sweet feeling.


Not to mention the media paints a picture that getting jacked fast is simple! Chicken, Broccoli, Rice, and just train harder! Except the modern media is jacked to the gills with anabolics.